السيدة زينب بنت جحش The Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh
أمهات المؤمنين The Mothers of the Believers
النسب
زينب بنت جحش بن رياب بن يعمر الأسدي ، وأمها أمية بنت عبد المطلب عمة رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، وأخوها عبدالله بن جحش أول أمير في الإسلام ، وُلدت سنة 33ق هـ ، وهي ابنة عمّة رسول اللَّه -صلّى اللَّه عليه وسلّم-، وأمّها أميمة بنت عبد المطلب بن هاشم، وهي أخت حمزة بن عبد المطلب -رضيَ الله عنه-، ومن أوائل المهاجرات في الإسلام
وكان اسمها "برَّة"
فسماها النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم زينب والبُرَة هي حَلْقةٌ من صُفْرٍ أو غيره في أحد جانبي أنْفِ البعير للتذليل، أو في أنف المرأْة للزِّينة
الألقاب
أم المؤمنين
أم الحكم
هي إحدى المهاجرات الأول
صفاتها الخُلقية
وصفها رسول الله بأنها أواها
وقد وصفها رسول الله بأنها أوَّاهة، فقال لعمر بن الخطاب: " إِنَّ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ أَوَّاهَةٌ ".فقال رجل: يا رسول الله، ما الأوَّاه؟ قال: " الْخَاشِعُ الْمُتَضَرِّعُ، {إِنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ لَحَلِيمٌ أَوَّاهٌ مُنِيبٌ} [هود: 75]
كانت رضي الله عنها من سادة النساء
ديناً وورعاً
وجوداً ومعروفاً
محضن اليتامى
مواسية الأرامل
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زيد بن حارثة مولى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ليعلمها كتاب الله وسنة رسوله
تفاصيل زواجها من زيد بن حارثة – رضي الله عنه -
رفضها للزواج من زيد بن حارثة في البداية
خطب رسول الله -صلَّى الله عليه وسلَّم- ابنة عمته زينب بنت جحش لمولاه زيد بن حارثة، فرفضت ذلك لأنّها كانت ترى نفسها أعزّ نسبًا منه. فأنزل الله -تعالى- قوله: (وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤْمِنٍ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَةٍ إِذَا قَضَى اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَمْرًا أَن يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ ۗوَمَن يَعْصِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَالًا مُّبِينًا) فوافقت على الزواج منه، وأراد الله -تعالى- أن يتمّ هذا الزواج لحكمة بالغة عنده، ثم بعد ذلك طلبت الطلاق منه، فطلَّقَها
الغاء التبني في الإسلام The abolition of adoption in Islam
الزواج المبارك من النبي صلي الله عليه وسلم
اختار الله تعالي هذا الزواج أن يتم ليبطل به عادة التبني في الجاهلية واستبدالها بالنظام الإسلامي بالكفالة
ومنذ اختارها الله لرسوله ، وهي تفخرُ بذلك على أمهات المؤمنين، وتقول كما ثبت في البخاري : ( زوَّجكنَّ أهاليكن ، وزوجني الله من فوق سبع سماوات ، وسماها النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بعد الزواج "زينب" ، وأطعم عليها يومئذٍ خبزاً ولحماً )
تزوجت من نبي الله صلي الله عليه وسلم في السنة الثالثة من الهجرة
وأنزل الله فيها قوله: ﴿وَإِذْ تَقُولُ لِلَّذِي أَنْعَمَ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَأَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيْهِ أَمْسِكْ عَلَيْكَ زَوْجَكَ وَاتَّقِ اللهَ وَتُخْفِي فِي نَفْسِكَ مَا اللهُ مُبْدِيهِ وَتَخْشَى النَّاسَ وَاللهُ أَحَقُّ أَنْ تَخْشَاهُ فَلَمَّا قَضَى زَيْدٌ مِنْهَا وَطَرًا زَوَّجْنَاكَهَا لِكَيْ لَا يَكُونَ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ حَرَجٌ فِي أَزْوَاجِ أَدْعِيَائِهِمْ إِذَا قَضَوْا مِنْهُنَّ وَطَرًا وَكَانَ أَمْرُ اللَّهِ مَفْعُولًا﴾ [الأحزاب: 377] وكان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم قد تبنَّى زيدًا، فكان يدُعي "زيد بن محمد"، فلما نزل قوله تعالى: ﴿ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِنْدَ اللهِ﴾ [الأحزاب: 55]، تزوجها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم بعد أن طلقها زيدٌ، وهدم ما كان معروفًا في الجاهليَّة من أمر التبنِّي.
ومنذ اختارها الله لرسوله، وهي تفخرُ بذلك على أمهات المؤمنين، وتقول -كما ثبت في "البخاري"-: «زَوَّجَكُنَّ أَهَالِيكُنَّ، وَزَوَّجَنِي اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مِنْ فَوْقِ سَبْعِ سَمَوَاتٍ»، وسماها النبي صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم بعد الزواج زينب، وأطعم عليها يومئذٍ خبزًا ولحمًا.
موقف المنافقين من زواج رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم من ابنة عمه زينب بنت جحش - رضي الله عنها وأرضاها
روي: أنه لما تزوَّجها رسول الله تكلَّم في ذلك المنافقون، فقالوا: حرَّم محمد نساء الولد، وقد تزوَّج امرأة ابنه. فأنزل الله تعالى ((مَا كَانَ مُحَمَّدٌ أَبَا أَحَدٍ مِنْ رِجَالِكُمْ وَلَكِنْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَخَاتَمَ النَّبِيِّينَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا، ادْعُوهُمْ لآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ لَمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا أَخْطَأْتُمْ بِهِ وَلَكِنْ مَا تَعَمَّدَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا))
والمراد بقوله تعالى: {وَتَخْشَى النَّاسَ}
إنما هو إرجاف المنافقين بأنه نهى عن تزويج نساء الأبناء وتزوَّج بزوجة ابنه.فأما ما رُوِيَ أن النبي هَوِيَ زينبَ امرأةَ زيد -وربما أطلق بعض المجَّان لفظ عشق- فهذا إنما يصدر عن جاهلٍ بعصمة النبي عن مثل هذا، أو مستخفٍّ بحرمته. وبهذا الموقف الواقعي العملي كانت بداية النهاية لظاهرة التبنِّي بشكل نهائي من المجتمع الإسلامي.
مواقف من حياتها في بيت النبوة – رضي الله عنها –
شرب العسل
كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يزور زينب ، ويمكث معها ، ويشرب العسل عندها ، فغارت بعض نسائه ، وأردن أن يصرفنه عن ذلك ، فعن عائشة رضي الله عنها : ( أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم كان يمكث عند زينب بنت جحش ، فيشرب عندها عسلا ، قالت: فتواطيت أنا و حفصة : أنَّ أيَّتـُنا ما دخل عليها النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فلتقل : إني أجد منك ريح مغافير ، أكلت مغافير ؟ - صمغٌ يؤكل ، طيب الطعم ، له رائحه غير طيبة - ، فدخل على إحداهما ، فقالت: ذلك له ، فقال: بل شربت عسلاً عند زينب بنت جحش ، ولن أعود له ، فنزل: { يا أيها النبي لم تحرم ما أحل الله لك} ... إلى قوله... {إن تتوبا} ل عائشة و حفصة {وإذ أسر النبي إلى بعض أزواجه حديثا} لقوله بل شربت عسلاً ) رواه البخاري و مسلم
نزول آية الحجاب في بيتها
وعن أنس بن مالك قال: لمَّا تزوج رسول الله زينب بنت جحش، دعا القوم فطعموا، ثم جلسوا يتحدَّثون، وإذا هو كأنه يتهيَّأ للقيام فلم يقوموا، فلمَّا رأى ذلك قام، فلمَّا قامَ قامَ مَنْ قام، وقعد ثلاثة نفر، فجاء النبي ليدخل فإذا القوم جلوس، ثم إنهم قاموا، فانطلقتُ فجئتُ فأخبرتُ النبي أنهم قد انطلقوا، فجاء حتى دخل، فذهبتُ أدخلُ فألقى الحجاب بيني وبينه، فأنزل الله: {: {يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لاَ تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتَ النَّبِيِّ إِلاَّ أَنْ يُؤْذَنَ لَكُمْ إِلَى طَعَامٍ غَيْرَ نَاظِرِينَ إِنَاهُ وَلَكِنْ إِذَا دُعِيتُمْ فَادْخُلُوا فَإِذَا طَعِمْتُمْ فَانْتَشِرُوا وَلاَ مُسْتَأْنِسِينَ لِحَدِيثٍ إِنَّ ذَلِكُمْ كَانَ يُؤْذِي النَّبِيَّ فَيَسْتَحْيِي مِنْكُمْ وَاللَّهُ لاَ يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ وَإِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْأَلُوهُنَّ مِنْ وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ وَمَا كَانَ لَكُمْ أَنْ تُؤْذُوا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَلاَ أَنْ تَنْكِحُوا أَزْوَاجَهُ مِنْ بَعْدِهِ أَبَدًا إِنَّ ذَلِكُمْ كَانَ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ عَظِيمًا} [الأحزاب: 53].
الثناء علي السيدة عائشة في حادثة الإفك
أنها أثنت على عائشة أم المؤمنين خيراً ، عندما استشارها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم في حادث الإفك ، ففي الحديث قالت عائشة : ( وكان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم سأل زينب بنت جحش زوج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم عن أمري ما علمت؟ أو ما رأيت؟ فقالت: يا رسول الله أحمي سمعي وبصري: أي من الحماية، فلا أنسب إليهما ما لم أسمع وأبصر، والله ما علمت إلا خيراً ، قالت عائشة : وهي التي كانت تساميني - تعاليني وتفاخرني - من أزواج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ، فعصمها الله بالورع ) رواه البخاري و مسلم
وفي هذا الأمر تظهر بوضوح تقوى السيدة زينب -رضي الله عنها- وورعها من أن تتَّهم ضَرَّتها السيدة عائشة -رضي الله عنها- بشيء لم تَرَهُ عيناها، ولم تسمع به أذناها.
كانت دَّينة كما يريد الله تبارك وتعالي
كانت ورعةً قوّامة ، تديم الصيام ، كثيرة التصدق وفعل الخير ، وكانت من صُنَّاع اليد ، تدبغ و تخرز ، ثم تتصدَّق بثمن ذلك ، وقد أثنى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم على كثرة تصدقها وكنَّى عن ذلك بطول يدها، فعن عائشة أم المؤمنين قالت: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ( أسرعكن لحاقاً بي أطولكنَّ يداً ، قالت : فكنَّ يتطاولن أيتهنَّ أطول يداً ، قالت : فكانت أطولنا يداً زينب ؛ لأنها كانت تعمل بيدها وتصدق ) رواه البخاري و مسلم ، وقيل في رواية أخري: (فأخذوا قصبة يذرعونها- أي أمهات المؤمنين- فكانت سودة أطولهن يدًا، فعلمنا بعدُ أنما كانت طول يدها الصدقة، وكانت أسرعنا لحوقًا به، وكانت تحبُّ الصدقة)
ولقد بلغ من حبّها للعطاء - رضي الله عنها وارضاها
أنها قالت حين حضرتها الوفاة : " إني قد أعددت كفني ، فإن بعث لي عمر بكفن فتصدقوا بأحدهما ، وإن استطعتم إذ أدليتموني أن تصدقوا بإزاري فافعلوا "
قصة أخري عن كثرة عطاءها رضي الله عنها
عن برزة بنت رافع رضي الله عنها قالت : " لما خرج العطاء بعث عمر بن الخطاب إلى زينب بنت جحش بعطائها ، فأتيت به ونحن عندها . فقالت : ما هذا؟ قلت: أرسل به إليك عمر ، قالت: غفر الله له ، والله لغيري من إخواتي كانت أقوى على قسم هذا مني ، فقلنا لها: إن هذا لك كله ، فقالت: سبحان الله . فجعلت تستر بينها وبينه بجلبابها أو بثوبها ، ثم قامت توزّعه وتقول لنا : اذهب به إلى فلان - من أهل رحمها وأيتامها - ، حتى بقيت بقيّة تحت الثوب ، فأخذنا ما تحت الثوب، فوجدناه بضعة وثمانين درهماً ، ثم رفعت يديها ثم قالت : اللهم لا يدركني عطاء لعمر بعد عامي هذا أبداً ".
وفاتها - رضي الله عنها -
فكانت حقاً أول زوجاته صلى الله عليه وسلم لحوقاً به - كما تنبأ بذلك صلي الله عليه وسلم (أطولكن يدا) حيث توفيت سنة 20 للهجرة وقد جاوزت الخمسين عاماً ،قيل ثلاث وخمسين عاما، وصلى عليها عمر بن الخطاب ، وصُنع لها نعشٌ وكانت أول امرأة يُفعل معها ذلك ، ودُفنت بالبقيع
حديث أمهات المؤمنين عنها رضي الله عنها
حديث السيدة عائشة عنها - رضي الله عنهما -
أحسنت عائشة رضي الله عنها في الثناء على زينب إذ قالت : ولم أر امرأة قط خيراً في الدين من زينب ، وأتقى لله ، وأصدق حديثاً ، وأوصل للرحم ، وأعظم صدقة ، وأشد ابتذالاً لنفسها في العمل الذي تصدق به وتقرب به إلى الله تعالى.
علم نفس: متى ولماذا تتوقف النساء عن حب أزواجهن?
لا ينهار الزواج بين ليلة وضحاها، بل يتلاشى تدريجيًا، غالبًا دون أن يدرك أي من الزوجين ذلك تمامًا. بالنسبة لكثير من النساء، لا تُعدّ لحظة إدراكهنّ أنهنّ لم يعدن يشعرن بالارتباط العاطفي بأزواجهنّ لحظةً مفاجئة، بل إدراكًا هادئًا ومؤلمًا. عندما يبدأ الحب والجهد اللذان كانا يجمعان بينهما بالتلاشي، يحلّ محلهما الاستياء والوحدة والانفصال. هذه بعض الأسباب الأكثر شيوعًا التي تدفع النساء إلى الانفصال عاطفيًا عن الشخص الذي وعدنه يومًا بالوفاء الأبدي.
فقدان الاحترام للزوج
يُعدّ الاحترام ركيزة أساسية في أي علاقة زوجية متينة، فهو أساسٌ لعلاقة عميقة. إذا توقفت الزوجة عن احترام زوجها، فقد تشعر بأن كل لحظة يقضيانها معًا عبءٌ ثقيل. قد ينبع هذا النقص في الاحترام من جوانب مختلفة، وإذا ما تلاشى هذا الإعجاب، فقد لا يكون الحب وحده كافيًا لاستمرار العلاقة.
النقد المستمر
عندما يُقلّل الزوج باستمرار من شأن زوجته، قد يُضعف ذلك ثقتها بنفسها، ويُصعّب عليها حبه. إذا شعرت بالنقد أو التقليل من شأنها، فقد تجد صعوبة في إظهار المودة. على سبيل المثال، قد يُثير استياءها من مهاراتها في الطبخ استياءها منه، والعكس أيضاً يضيق بالحياة الزوجية من كل جانب
غياب التواصل الفعال
يُعدّ التواصل الفعال حجر الزاوية في أي علاقة زوجية ناجحة. فعندما تشعر المرأة بالعجز عن التعبير عن أفكارها، أو ما هو أسوأ، عندما لا تجد كلماتها آذاناً صاغية، يتسبب ذلك في شرخ في العلاقة.
انعدام التواصل العاطفي
عندما تشعر الزوجة بالفتور العاطفي تجاه زوجها، يُؤثّر ذلك سلباً على علاقتهما. ويؤدي غياب التواصل العاطفي إلى عدم الرضا والشعور بالوحدة وتلاشي الرابطة. ومع مرور الوقت، قد يتباعد الزوجان، وقد يتحوّل الرابط القوي الذي كان يجمعهما إلى رابطة سطحية. وقد يضعف التواصل، ليحلّ محلّه الصمت أو أحاديث سطحية تفتقر إلى العمق.
الصراعات العالقة
قد تُشكل الصراعات العالقة في الزواج عائقًا أمام قدرة الزوجة على حب زوجها حبًا كاملًا. فعندما تستمر الخلافات دون حل، فإنها تُنبت بذور السخط وخيبة الأمل.
الشاهد من هذه الدراسة
إن البدايات الصحيحة علي اساس متين من البداية هي اساس لإكتمال العلاقات بطريقة سليمة، ولكنها إرادة الله عزوجل - في ابطال شيء كان متأصل في النفس العربية الشرقية - عادة التبني - ولكي تنزع شيء متأصل في النفس لابد من تجربة واقعية تؤلم حقاً نفسيا واجتماعياً حتي تنتزع انتزاعا من النفس المتشبسة بما لا تعلم من العواقب بعد حين، كما يقول علماء النفس: إن الزواج مثل لعبة التنس، إن لعب الزوج فقط بالكرة والزوجة لا تلعب في ساحة هذا الزواج لا يمكن لهذا الزواج بالإستمرار كما لعبة التنس ، لكي يكتمل الماتش لابد من وضع الجهد من كلا الطرفين، في اي لحظة أحدهما رفع يده عن الكرة لابد من انتهاء الماتش بهزيمة أو حتي فوز احدهما بما يريد حقا. ربما أحدهما يقول: إن علماء المسلمين يتحدثون عن الكفاءة في الزواج لابد من معرفة أن الزوج إذا كان عالماً مثلا في الدين أو الدنيا هذا يرفع من كفاءته إن كانت الزوجة موافقة عليه وتحبه فالعلم يرفع خسيسة الجاه، ولكن لابد من موافقة المرأة فعليا علي هذه الفجوة - إن صح التعبير - وهنا السيدة زينب بنت جحش: كانت جميلة حسيبة نسيبة وابنة عم لرسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم، وكثيرا ما يرتبط أولاد العمومة نفسيا قبل الزواج في كثير من العائلات لأنهم يربون مع بعضهم البعض ويعرفون كل شيء عن بعضهما البعض ، والآن رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم لم يكن مجرد زواج عادي بل هو زواج من نبي مرسل مؤسس الدولة الإسلامية - إن صح التعبير - فهو زواج ذو شأن في المجتمعات العربية والدينية وخاصة أنها كانت مسلمة ودينة - رضي الله عنها وأرضاها-
كتعليق عام عن قصة السيدة زينب بنت جحش - نقول التالي:
1- تغيير الإسم متاح في الإسلام
علمنا ان السيدة زينب بنت جحش كانت اسمها برة: ومعناه: الحلقة التي توضع في أنف البعير أو أنف المرأة للزينة، وهو اسم ليس بالجيد جداً، فغيره رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم بزينب، لذا تغيير الأإسم للداخلين الغسلام حديثاً ليس بالأمر المستهجن أو حتي من كان اسمه يجلب له المشاكل.
2- الكرم والجود من العمل لا يستطيعه إلا أصحاب الهمم العالية
نحن في مجتمعات رسخت فكرة المادية أو ما يسميه الغرب (Materialism) ومفاده: الإستهلاك حد الإسراف والتمحور حول الذات وما تحتاجه وحتي ما لا تحتاجه، في مقابل اسلامياً ما يدعي الإيثار أو العطاء بلا حدود، أو في هذه الحالة حالة السيدة زينب: العمل لا من أجل اكتساب المال وبعثرته علي النفس، بل بعثرته علي الفقراء والمعوزين وهذا نادر نادر جداً ليس في يومنا وحسب بل في كل زمان ومكان، ولذا سماها رسول الله صلي اله عليه وسلم (طويلة اليد) فرضي الله عنها وأرضاها.
3- الكرم المادي يتبعه كرم أخلاقي وكيف هذا؟
إن الكريم - السخي: سخي في الأخلاق والمعاملات قبل السخاء في المال والصدقة، فالبخيل لا يمكن أن يكون بخيل بالمال وانتهي الأمر، بل تلاقيه بخيل بالجهد - بخيل بالرعاية - بخيل بالمشاعر الطيبة، السيدة زينب بنت جحش أفردت نموذج فريد للمتزوجة من رجل له عدة زوجات، عائشة رضي الله عنها وأرضاها: كانت أصغرهن وجميلة والوحيدة التي لم تتزوج قبل النبي صلي الله عليه وسلم، وهي ايضا لم تنجب فهي متفرغة لرسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم ومع ذلك لم تقتلها الغيرة العمياء أن تحمي سمعها وبصرها من الحديث عن السيدة عائشة رضي الله عنها وأرضاها، بالرغم من أن أختها بالنسب (حمنة بنت جحش) كانت ممن خاض في سيرة السيدة عائشة بالسوء إكراما لأختها وأختها السيدة زينب: كانت أكرم من الجميع، فمن يأخذ غيرة نساء الرسول من بعضهن البعض ذريعة للغيرة بين النساء في العامة ويخرج عن الورع، أمامه السيدة زينب نموذج للورع، ومن قال عنها أنها ورعة "السيدة عائشة رضي الله عنها وأرضاها" وكأنها ترد لها جميلها ، فالسيدة عائشة أيضاً بالرغم من صغر سنها ومعرفة الجميع بغيرتها علي رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم، إلا أنها منعها الورع ايضا وقالت عن من تساميها في المنزلة في قلب رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم: أنها عصمها الورع، فرضي الله عن زوجات لم يمنعهن الورع من ذكر محاسن كلاهما وكل واحدة منهن للأخري.
4- أقدار الله تبارك وتعالي أحياناً مذهلة في الألم، وعاقبتها كل خير
من الذي لا يحب الطلاق بل قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم أنه بغيض بل أبغض الحلال ولم يخرجه من صفة أنه حلال؟ الله تبارك وتعالي، ومع هذا هو من شرع الزواج أولاً بكفاءة ليست متناسبة مع مكانة السيدة زينب بل وأجبرها من فوق سبع سموات علي هذه الزيجة بقوله تعالي ( وما كان لمؤمن ولا مؤمنة إذا قضي الله ورسوله أمرا ان يكون لهم الخيرة من أمرهم) هو هو جل جلاله من أراد تطليقها وبقرآن نزل من فوق سبع سموات جاء أعلي في القصة، لذا لا تحرم حلال الله تعالي ارتضاه لأم من أمهات المؤمنين السيدة زينب بنت جحش، فالطلاق أحيانا رد كرامة ورد معنويات جيدة واحساس بالإطمئنان لإرادة بعض المتزوجين أنها لا تخالف إرادة الله جل جلاله.
5- موقف المنافقين دائماً وأبدا
من المنافق؟ وهل يحب ان يصفه الناس بصفة منافق؟ المنافق من يُظهر إيمان امام المؤمنين خوفاً أو قبول اجتماعي، ويبطن كفراً لكل أحكام الله تعالي في الإسلام أو حتي يجحد جزء منها ويرفض حكمة الله تبارك وتعالي، أما الجابة علي السؤال الثاني: هل يحب أن يوصف بالنفاق؟ لا، لا أحد مهما كان يوصف بصفة سلبية أن ينعته الناس بها، فالسارق يعلم أنه سارقولكن إذا قال أحدهم عنه أنه سارق يثور، وكذا الكذاب وغيرها من الصفات وكذلك النفاق، أعاذنا الله تعالي ان نكون منهم ونحن لا نشعر - وظيفتهم - أي المنافقين - دائما وابدا أن يشككوا في حكمة الله تعالي وفي أفعال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم، وما الغرض من ذلك؟ الغرض أن يبلبلوا الناس في دينهم فينقلبوا علي الدين مثلهم هم، فلا يكون هناك أحد أحسن من أحد ، فإذا وجدت مسلمين في حياتك: تفعل الخير يشككوا في نيتك، تفعل الشر يكفروك ، تحايد ولا تفعل شيء ينعتوك بأنك منافق عليم اللسان، اعلم أنهم منافقين أو بهم صفات نفاق.
6- الحجاب والغيرة وتقدير الذات
علمنا أعلي أن الحجاب فرض علي نساء المؤمنين بموجب زواج السيدة زينب، فرسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم أولم وليمة لم يولمها لزوجة أخري من زوجاته رضي الله عنهن جميعا ، فجلس الصحابة الكرام رضوان الله عليهم عند رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم في بيت الزوجية وطالت جِلستهم حتي ضاق رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم بذلك وبدأ يدخل ويخرج من الحجرة ومتحرج أن يقول لهم امضوا إلي حال سبيلكم، ولكن الجلوس مع رسول الله وفي بيت رسول الله ووليمة رسول الله ما أحلاها، ولكن قضاء الله أفضل قضاء للمؤمنين، فالجميع ربمات كانوا يرون السيدة زينب بنت جحش قبل الحجاب وهي كانت جميلة كما ورد من الأحاديث ، لذا كان رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم يشعر بالغيرة عليها، وهذا حقه، والعرب كثيرا ما يشعرون بالغيرة علي زوجاتهم وبعض الغرب وخاصة إذا دخل الإسلام، ورسول الله غيرو والله تبارك وتعالي أشد غيرة، لذا من تقدير الذات للمؤمنات نزول آية الحجاب لماذا؟ لعدة أسباب نذكر منها:
أ - حماية البيوت المسلمة من النظر للعورات، فما وقعت الخيانات الزوجية وغير الزوجية إلا من اضطلاع بعض الرجال الغير مؤمنين علي بعض زينة من النساء ، فالرجال المؤمنين يعصمهم الله تعالي بالورع، أما غير المؤمنين فالله تعالي قال في حقهم (فيطمع الذي في قلبه مرض)
ب - تقدير الذات للمرأة: وكيف ذلك: وجدت دراسة في علم النفس أن الناس تتحدث معك علي طريقتك في ارتداء ملابسك، فقس علي هذا أنت تحترم الطبيب وتقول له يا دكتور أسألك كذا وكذا: ما الذي يجعلك تحترم علمه - هذا المعطف الطبي الأبيض اللون - أليس كذلك؟ وهذه الملابس الرياضية المحتشمة او غير ذلك: تجعلك تشعر أن من امامك رياضي حقاً، فما الذي جعلك تشعر بهذا "الملابس الرياضية" وهكذا في بقية المهن ، ووجدوا في هذه الدراسة أيضاً: ان المدير الذي يرتدي ملابس رسمية يتعامل معه الموظفون بكامل الإحترام والتقدير، فإذا جاء يوما في العمل بملابس غير رسمية كبنطلون جينس وتيشرت: يتعاملون معه بخفة وطبيعية انسانية اكثر من الإحترام، وكذلك المرأة التي ترتدي ملابس رسمية يتعاملون معها بكل احترام: ألا يذكرك ذلك بشيء؟ إن المرأة في الإسلام التي ترتدي ملابس كاملة وتغطي رأسها غطاء ولكنه لا يغطي عقلها، فيتعامل الرجال مع عقلها مقارنة بجمالها أو شعرها أو جسدها العاري، فيعرفون لذلك قدرها ، فأين يكمن تقدير الذات: في تعامل الناس مع عقلك أم من يقدرون جمال جسدك ؟ إنه فكر تقدير ذات حقا .
فصلي اللهم علي سيدنا محمد صلي الله عليه وسلم، ورضي اللهم عن زوجاته أمهات المؤمنين رضي الله عنهن وأرضاهن.
The Lineage
Zaynab bint Jahsh ibn Riyab ibn Ya'mar al-Asadi. Her mother was Umayya bint Abd al-Muttalib, the paternal aunt of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). Her brother was Abdullah ibn Jahsh, the first commander in Islam. She was born in 33 BH (Before Hijra). She was the daughter of the Prophet's paternal aunt, and her mother was Umayma bint Abd al-Muttalib ibn Hashim. She was the sister of Hamza ibn Abd al-Muttalib (may God be pleased with him). She was among the first women to emigrate to Islam.
Her name was originally "Barra"
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) renamed her Zaynab. "Barra" refers to a ring of brass or other material placed on one side of a camel's nose for training, or on a woman's nose for adornment.
Her Titles
Mother of the Believers
Mother of ruler
She was one of the first women to emigrate
Her Characteristics
The Messenger of God described her as deeply compassionate
The Messenger of God described her as deeply compassionate, saying to Umar ibn al-Khattab, "Zaynab bint Jahsh is deeply talk of pain but here from return a lot to Allah Almighty." A man asked, "O Messenger of God, what does 'deeply Awah' mean?" He replied, "The humble and supplicating one, {Indeed, Abraham was forbearing, deeply talk of pain from return a lot to God} [Hud: 75]."
She was, may God be pleased with her, among the most noble of women:
In piety and devotion
In generosity and kindness
A nurturer of orphans
A comforter of widows
She was married to
Zayd ibn Haritha, the freed slave of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, so that he might teach her the Book of God and the Sunnah of His Messenger
The details of her marriage to Zayd ibn Harithah (may God be pleased with him)
Her initial refusal to marry Zayd ibn Harithah
The Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) proposed marriage to his cousin Zaynab bint Jahsh on behalf of his freed slave Zayd ibn Harithah, but she refused because she considered herself of higher lineage than him. Then Allah revealed His words: “It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.” (Quran 33:36) She agreed to marry him, and Allah, in His infinite wisdom, willed that this marriage should take place. Later, she asked for a divorce, and he granted it.
Zayd's Complaint to the Messenger of Allah Regarding His Prolonged Dispute with Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her)
Zayd ibn Haritha came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to complain about his dispute with Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with them both). The Prophet instructed him to remain married to her and to reconsider the matter of divorce. The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - concealed the command of God Almighty that he had been commanded to do; This refers to his marriage to Zaynab after her divorce from Zayd, fearing what people would say if he married her, since he had adopted Zayd, and Zaynab would be the wife of his adopted son. So, God revealed His words: "And when you said to him whom God had favored and you had favored, 'Keep your wife and fear God,' while you concealed within yourself that which God would disclose, and you feared the people, while God has righter that you should fear Him. So, when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you so that there would be no blame upon the believers concerning the wives of their sons." (And their adopted sons, when they have fulfilled their desire with them. And the command of Allah is ever executed.) And the will of Allah, the Exalted, for this marriage was to abolish the customs and laws of the pre-Islamic era. Thus, the marriage of Zaynab bint Jahsh to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, was by the command of Allah, the Exalted, and by a Quranic text revealed to His Prophet.
This is the complete story of Zayd in brief – with a link below the story
– His mother, Sa’da, visited her people, and Zayd, who was eight years old, was with her. During the pre-Islamic era, a group of horsemen from Banu al-Qayn ibn Jisr raided the tents of Banu Ma’n. They captured Zayd, a young boy, and brought him to the market of Ukaz, where they offered him for sale. Hakim ibn Hizam bought him for his aunt Khadija for four hundred dirhams. When the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him and his family, married her, she gave him to him. Then his father and uncle went in search of him until they reached Mecca and found him with the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, gave him the choice, and he chose him over his father, his uncle, and his family. At that point, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, took him to the Hijr and said, “Bear witness that Zayd is my son; he will inherit from me, and I will inherit from him.” So he was called Zayd ibn Muhammad until God brought Islam. When Zaid grew up and reached the age he had reached, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, arranged for him to marry a beautiful girl from among his cousins, Zainab bint Jahsh, may God be pleased with her. It was narrated on the authority of Zaynab that she said: Several men from Quraysh proposed to me, so I sent my sister Hamna to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) to consult him. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to her: “Where is she in relation to the one who teaches her the Book of her Lord and the Sunnah of her Prophet?” She said: “Who is he, O Messenger of Allah?” He said: “Zayd ibn Haritha.” Hamna became very angry and said: “O Messenger of Allah, would you marry your cousin to your freed slave?” She said - meaning Zainab : She came to me and told me, and I became even angrier than she was, and I said something even harsher than she said. Then Allah revealed: “It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys…” If he disobeys God and His Messenger, he has clearly gone astray. 369 So, I sent word to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said: I seek forgiveness from God and obey God and His Messenger. Do as you see fit and marry me to Zayd. From this starting point, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, dismantled a set of social distinctions and tribal customs prevalent among the upper and lower classes of Arab society, by setting a living example from his own household.
الغاء التبني في الإسلام The abolition of adoption in Islam
The Blessed Marriage to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
God Almighty chose this marriage to abolish the pre-Islamic practice of adoption and replace it with the Islamic system of guardianship.
From the moment God chose her for His Messenger, she took pride in this over the other Mothers of the Believers, saying, as recorded in Bukhari: “Your families married you off, but God married me from above the seven heavens.” The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) named her Zaynab after the marriage, and a feast of bread and meat was served on that day.
She married the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in the third year after the Hijra
And God revealed concerning her the following verse: “And when you said to him whom God had favored and you had favored, ‘Keep your wife and fear God,’ while you concealed within yourself that which God would disclose, and you feared…” People and God are more deserving of your fear. So, when Zayd had no longer any need for her, We married her to you so that there would be no blame upon the believers concerning the wives of their adopted sons when they no longer have need of them. And ever is the command of God accomplished. [Al-Ahzab: 377] The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him and his family, had adopted Zayd, so he was called “Zayd ibn Muhammad.” Then, when the verse was revealed: “Call them by their fathers’ names; that is more just in the sight of God.” [Al-Ahzab: 55], the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him and his family, married her after he had divorced her. Zayd abolished the pre-Islamic practice of adoption, ever since God chose her for His Messenger, she boasted of this to the other Mothers of the Believers, saying—as recorded in Bukhari—"Your families married you off, but God Almighty married me off from above the seven heavens." After the marriage, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) named her Zaynab and offered bread and meat in her honor on that day.
The meaning of God's words, "And you fear the people,"
is nothing but the slander spread by the hypocrites that he forbade the marriage of one's sons' wives while he himself married his son's wife. As for what has been narrated that the Prophet desired Zaynab, the wife of Zayd—and some fools may have even used the word "love"—this only comes from someone ignorant of the Prophet's infallibility from such things, or someone who disregards his sanctity. And with this practical, realistic stance, the beginning of the end for the practice of adoption was finally established in Muslim society.
Some Incidents from Her Life in the Prophet's Household – May God be pleased with her –
Drinking Honey
The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, used to visit Zaynab, stay with her, and drink honey at her house. Some of his wives became jealous and wanted to dissuade him from doing so. It was narrated by Aisha, may God be pleased with her, that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, used to stay with Zaynab bint Jahsh and drink honey there. She said, “Hafsa and I conspired that whichever of us the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, entered upon should say, ‘I smell maghafir on you. Have you eaten maghafir?’ (Maghafir is an edible gum with a pleasant taste but an unpleasant odor.) He entered upon one of them, and she said that to him. He replied, ‘Rather, I drank honey at Zaynab bint Jahsh’s house, and I will not do it again.’ Then the verse was revealed: {O Prophet, why do you prohibit what God has made lawful for you?} until His saying… {If you two repent} to Aisha and Hafsa, {And when the Prophet confided to one of his wives a statement} regarding his statement, ‘Rather, I drank (Honey) Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim
The revelation of the verse of hijab in her home
On the authority of Anas bin Malik, he said: When the Messenger of Allah married Zaynab bint Jahsh, he invited people over, and they ate. Then they sat talking, and it seemed as if he was preparing to leave, but they did not get up. When he saw this, he got up, and when he got up, some got up, and three people remained seated. The Prophet came to enter, but the people were still sitting. Then they got up, so I went and informed the Prophet that they had left. He came and entered, and I went to enter, but he put a curtain between me and him. Then Allah revealed: {O you who have believed, do not enter the houses of the Prophet except when you are permitted for a meal, without awaiting its preparation. But when you are invited, you may enter.} You have been invited, so enter. And when you have eaten, disperse, and do not linger for conversation. Indeed, that [behavior] was troubling the Prophet, and he was shy of [telling] you. But Allah is not shy of the truth. And when you ask them [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a screen. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts. And it is not for you to trouble the Messenger of Allah, nor to marry his wives after him. Never! Indeed, that was a grave matter in the sight of God. [Al-Ahzab: 53]
Praise' Her of Aisha in the Incident of the Slander
She praised Aisha, the mother of the Believers, when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) consulted her regarding the incident of the slander. In the hadith, Aisha said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) asked Zaynab bint Jahsh, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), about my situation: ‘What do you know? What have you seen?’ She replied: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I protect my hearing and sight,’ meaning, ‘I will not attribute to them what I have not heard or seen. By Allah, I know nothing but good.’ Aisha said: ‘She was the one who used to compete with me—to boast and show off—among the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), but Allah protected her through her piety.’” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
In this matter, the piety and scrupulousness of Zaynab (may Allah be pleased with her) are clearly demonstrated, as she refrained from accusing her co-wife, Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), of something she had neither seen nor heard.
She was devout, as God Almighty intended.
She was pious and devout, fasting regularly, giving generously in charity and performing good deeds. She was skilled in handicrafts, tanning and sewing, and then giving the proceeds in charity. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, praised her abundant charity, alluding to it by the length of her hand. Aisha, the mother of the Believers, narrated: The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “The one of you who will join me first will be the one with the longest hand.” She said: “So they would stretch out their hands to see who had the longest hand.” She said: “And the one with the longest hand was Zainab, because she used to work with her hands and give in charity.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim). In another narration, it is said: “So they took a reed and measured it—meaning the mothers of the Believers—and Sawda had the longest hand. We later learned that the length of her hand was due to her giving in charity, and she was the first of us to join him, and she loved giving in charity.”
Her love for giving—may God be pleased with her—was such that
when death approached her, she said: “I have I have prepared my shroud. If Umar sends me one, give one of them in charity. And if you are able to give my lower garment in charity when you lower me into the grave, then do so.”
Another story about her abundant generosity, may God be pleased with her:
On the authority of Barzah bint Rafi’, may God be pleased with her, she said: “When the stipends were distributed, Umar ibn al-Khattab sent his stipend to Zaynab bint Jahsh. It was brought to her while we were with her. She said, ‘What is this?’ I said, ‘Umar sent it to you.’ She said, ‘May God forgive him. By God, some of my sisters were more capable of distributing this than I am.’ We said to her, ‘This is all yours.’ She said, ‘Glory be to God!’ Then she began to cover herself from it with her outer garment or her robe. Then she stood up and distributed it, saying to us, ‘Take this to so-and-so’—from among her relatives and orphans—until some remained under the robe. We took what was under the robe and found it to be eighty-odd dirhams. Then she raised her hands and said, ‘O God, may I never receive a stipend from Umar after this year.
Her Death - May God be pleased with her -
She was indeed the first of his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace, to join him in death, as he, peace and blessings be upon him, had foretold (the one with the longest hand). She passed away in the year 20 AH, having lived over fifty years, or some say fifty-three. Umar ibn al-Khattab led the funeral prayer for her, and a coffin was made for her, the first woman for whom this was done. She was buried in al-Baqi'.
The Hadith of the mothers of the Believers about her, may God be pleased with her
Hadith of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, about her - may God be pleased with them both -
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, praised Zaynab highly, saying: "I have never seen a woman better in religion than Zaynab, more God-fearing, more truthful in speech, more devoted to her kinship ties, more generous in charity, or more self-sacrificing in the deeds she performed to draw closer to God Almighty.
The Psychology: When and Why Do Women Stop Loving Their Husbands?
Marriages don't fall apart overnight; they gradually fade, often without either partner fully realizing it. For many women, the realization that they no longer feel emotionally connected to their husbands isn't a sudden shock, but rather a quiet, painful awakening. As the love and effort that once bound them together begin to fade, resentment, loneliness, and detachment take their place. These are some of the most common reasons why women become emotionally detached from the person they once promised eternal loyalty to.
Loss of Respect for the Husband
Respect is a cornerstone of any strong marriage; it's the foundation of a deep connection. If a wife stops respecting her husband, she may feel that every moment they spend together is a heavy burden. This lack of respect can stem from various sources, and if admiration fades, love alone may not be enough to sustain the relationship.
Constant Criticism
When a husband constantly belittles his wife, it can weaken her self-confidence and make it difficult for her to love him. If she feels criticized or belittled, she may find it hard to show affection. For example, her dissatisfaction with her cooking skills might lead to resentment towards him, and vice versa, making married life unbearable.
Lack of Effective Communication
Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful marriage. When a woman feels unable to express her thoughts, or worse, when her words go unheard, it creates a rift in the relationship.
Lack of Emotional Connection
When a wife feels emotionally distant from her husband, it negatively impacts their relationship. The absence of emotional connection leads to dissatisfaction, loneliness, and a weakening of the bond. Over time, the couple may drift apart, and the strong connection they once shared may become superficial. Communication may weaken, replaced by silence or shallow, shallow conversations.
Unresolved conflicts
Unresolved conflicts in a marriage can hinder a wife's ability to fully love her husband. When disagreements persist without resolution, they sow the seeds of resentment and disappointment.
The lesson from this study
A sound beginning, built on a solid foundation from the outset, is essential for the healthy development of relationships. However, it is God's will—in abolishing something deeply ingrained in the Arab and Eastern psyche—that is, the custom of adoption. To eradicate something so deeply rooted, a truly painful experience is necessary, both psychologically and socially, to force it from the soul clinging to something whose consequences it is unaware of. As psychologists say, marriage is like a tennis match. If only the husband plays the ball and the wife doesn't participate, the marriage cannot continue. Just as in tennis, for a match to be successful, both partners must exert effort. The moment one of them gives up, the match will inevitably end, either with a defeat or with one of them achieving what they truly desire. Perhaps one of them says: Muslim scholars speak of compatibility in marriage. It must be known that if the husband is knowledgeable, for example, in religion or worldly matters, this raises his compatibility if the wife agrees with him and loves him, for knowledge elevates low status. But the woman must actually agree to this gap - if we may call it that - and here is Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh: she was beautiful, noble, and of good lineage, and a cousin of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace. Cousins often form a psychological bond before marriage in many families because they grew up together and know everything about each other. Now, the marriage of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was not just an ordinary marriage, but a marriage to a sent prophet, the founder of the Islamic state - if we may call it that - so it was a marriage of great importance in Arab and religious societies, especially since she was a Muslim and religious - may God be pleased with her and grant her His pleasure.
As a general comment on the story of Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh, we say the following:
1- Changing one's name is permissible in Islam
We know that Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh's original name was Barrah, which means a ring placed in a camel's or woman's nose for adornment. It is not a very good name, so the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) changed it to Zaynab. Therefore, changing one's name is not objectionable for new converts to Islam, or even for those whose name causes them problems.
2- Generosity and munificence in work are only attainable by those with high aspirations
We live in societies where the idea of materialism has become entrenched. This means excessive consumption and self-centeredness, focusing on what one needs and even what one doesn't. In contrast, Islam promotes altruism and boundless giving, exemplified by the example of Lady Zaynab: she worked not to acquire wealth and squander it on herself, but to give it to the poor and needy. This is extremely rare, not only in our time but in every time and place. That is why the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) called her "the one with a long hand" (a reference to her generosity). May God be pleased with her.
3- The Material generosity is followed by moral generosity. How so?
The truly generous person is generous in character and conduct before being generous with money and charity. A miser cannot simply be stingy with money; they are also stingy with effort, care, and kind feelings. Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh exemplified a unique model of a woman married to a man with multiple wives. Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was the youngest and most beautiful of them, and the only one who had not married before the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him. She also had no children, devoting herself entirely to the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him. Yet, blind jealousy did not prevent her from protecting her hearing and sight from any talk about Lady Aisha, may God be pleased with her, even though her sister in blood, Hamna bint Jahsh, was among those who spoke ill of Lady Aisha out of love for her sister. Lady Zaynab was the most generous of them all. So, whoever uses the jealousy of the Prophet's wives towards one another as an excuse for jealousy among women in general and abandons piety should look to Lady Zaynab as a model of devoutness. And whoever says about her that she The devoutness of “Lady Aisha, may God be pleased with her” is as if she is returning her favor. Lady Aisha, despite her young age and everyone knowing about her jealousy about the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was also prevented by devoutness. She said about the one who surpassed her in status in the heart of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace: that devoutness protected her. May God be pleased with the wives who were not prevented by devoutness from mentioning the virtues of each of them and each of them to the other.
4- The decrees of God Almighty are sometimes astonishing in their pain, yet their outcome is always good.
Who doesn't like divorce? The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said it is detested, even the most detested of permissible things, yet he didn't remove it from the category of permissible things. God Almighty, despite this, is the One who first ordained marriage, a marriage not commensurate with the status of Lady Zaynab, and He compelled her from above the seven heavens to enter into it, as He, the Exalted, said: "It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair." He, the Majestic, is the One who willed her divorce, and the Quran, revealed from above the seven heavens, is the highest authority in the story. Therefore, do not forbid what God Almighty has made lawful, which He has ordained for one of the mothers of the Believers, Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh. Sometimes divorce restores dignity, restores morale, and provides reassurance that the will of some married individuals does not contradict the will of God Almighty.
5- The stance of hypocrites, always and forever
Who is a hypocrite? And does he like to be described as such? A hypocrite is one who outwardly professes faith before believers out of fear or for social acceptance, while inwardly harboring disbelief in all of God Almighty's rulings in Islam, or even denying some of them and rejecting the wisdom of God, Blessed and Exalted is He. As for the answer to the second question: Does he like to be described as a hypocrite? No, no one, regardless of who they are, likes to be described with a negative attribute. A thief knows he is a thief, but if someone calls him a thief, he becomes angry. The same applies to a liar and other such traits, including hypocrisy. May God Almighty protect us from being among them without realizing it. The function of hypocrites is always to cast doubt on the wisdom of God Almighty and the actions of the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him. What is their purpose? Their purpose is to confuse people about their religion so, that they turn away from it like the hypocrites, so, that no one is better than anyone else. If you find Muslims in your life who, when you do good, question your intentions; when you do evil, accuse you of disbelief; and when you remain neutral and do nothing, label you a hypocrite with a sharp tongue, know that they are hypocrites or possess hypocritical traits.
6- The Veil, Jealousy, and Self-Esteem
We learned earlier that the veil was made obligatory for believing women following the marriage of Lady Zaynab. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, held a feast he had not held for any of his other wives, may God be pleased with them all. The noble Companions, may God be pleased with them, sat with the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, in his marital home, and their stay was so long that the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, became weary of it and began to enter and leave the room, hesitant to tell them to go on their way. But sitting with the Messenger of God, in the house of the Messenger of God, and at the feast of the Messenger of God—how sweet it was! But God's decree is the best decree for the believers. Everyone probably saw Lady Zaynab bint Jahsh before the veil was revealed, and she was beautiful, as mentioned in the hadiths. Therefore, the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, felt jealous of her, and this was his right. Arabs often feel jealous of their wives, and some Westerners, especially after embracing Islam, do the same. The Messenger of God was jealous, and God, Blessed and Exalted is He, is even more jealous. Therefore, out of respect for the believing women, the verse of the veil was revealed. Why? For several reasons, including:
A - Protecting Muslim homes from the gaze of women's private affairs
Marital and other forms of infidelity only occur when some unbelieving men see some of the adornments of women. Believing men are protected by God Almighty through piety, while regarding unbelieving men, God Almighty said about them: "So, that he in whose heart is disease may be tempted.
B- Women's Self-Esteem: How so? A study in psychology found that people speak to you based on how you dress. Consider this: you respect a doctor and say, "Doctor, I have a question for you." What makes you respect his expertise? That white medical coat, isn't it? Similarly, modest sportswear, or not modest clothing, makes you feel that the person in front of you is truly athletic. What makes you feel that way about "sportswear"? And so it is with other professions. This study also found that a manager who wears formal attire is treated with utmost respect and appreciation by his employees. If he comes to work one day in casual clothes, like jeans and a t-shirt, they treat him with more casual and human interaction than respect. Likewise, a woman who wears formal attire is treated with respect. Doesn't this remind you of something? In Islam, a woman who wears full clothing and covers her head, but not her mind, is judged by men based on her intellect, not her beauty, hair, or exposed body. Therefore, they recognize her worth. So, where does self-esteem lie: in how people treat your mind or in those who appreciate your physical beauty? This is truly the essence of self-esteem.
O Allah, send blessings upon our master Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, and be pleased with his wives, the mothers of the believers, may God be pleased with them and grant them His pleasure.
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